Wednesday, August 3, 2016

List: Ten tips to help you make the best decision.

Whenever something goes wrong in my little world, I obsess over it.
Whenever it’s just a possibility that something can go wrong, I obsess over it.
I really can’t help it!!  I won’t be able to sleep at night or concentrate during the day.
I understand that it’s a waste of time to worry about something you can’t control.
I also understand that obsessing over something will not change it.
Just because I understand something, doesn’t mean that I can just turn my brain off!

Ten tips to help you make the best decision.

1.  Decipher which parts are in your control.
As much as I hate to admit this, not everything is within an individual’s control.
We need to learn to let those things be, accept them, and then move on.

2.  Write a pros and cons list.
Make sure this list is detailed and honest and that you account for the worth of each argument.
As long as you didn’t force it to sway in a certain direction, be attentive to the outcome.

3.  Pick a non-negotiable.
Before considering your options, pick out one non-negotiable result.
This will help you eliminate the choices that will break your chosen rule.

4.  Narrow down your choices.
Use your non-negotiable factor and your pros/cons list to narrow down your list of choices to two.
The more choices you have to pick from, the harder it will be to decide.

5.  Don’t ask multiple people for advice.
Choose only one person that can relate to your experience to give you guidance.
Asking for advice from everyone would seem like a great idea, but advice overload is confusing.

6.  Ignore bias parties.
Don’t allow anyone to bully you.  This includes anyone influenced by the biased party.
People involved in the situation may try to sway you to make a decision in their favor.

7.  Do what is best for you.
It’s nice to consider all the people that will be affected, but, always be your own priority.
People that really care about you will understand that it’s your life that you have to live.

8.  Consider the unexpected.
Don’t ignore a new and better opportunity simply because it wasn’t there before.
Sometimes a simple A and B decision, becomes an A, B, and C decision.

9.  Prepare for the consequences of your decision.
The majority of the time we know the outcome of the choices we make.
As mentioned in #1, realize it’s out of your control, accept them, and then move on.

10.  Politely tell all the involved parties your decision.
Always make sure that you act in a way that you can be proud of in the end.
Make sure you are cordial, direct, and apologize if you feel the need to do so.

How do you make a difficult decision?


  1. I always trust my gut. Sometimes my IBS even comes in handy 'cause I can tell when somethin' bad is gonna turn into sh*t.

  2. Number 6 is a big one, as people will always try and get you to do what is best for them and not you. At least some people. Pffft to them.

  3. I still don't know. I usually follow my heart... not a good thing

  4. Great thoughts. My final decision always comes down to prayer and deep thought.

  5. Here's how I finally stopped obsessing and learned to Let Go. I prayed using the Serenity Prayer:

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    Courage to change the things I can,
    And wisdom to know the difference.

    Really calmed my obsessive butt down ;) Then again, I was a wackjob haha

  6. I'm fortunate because my son and/or Willy Dunne Wooters often help me make decisions. Sometimes simply explaining to one of them what I need to do helps me decide.


  7. Pray for wisdom. #1

    And I totally agree with #5...I always regret it when I do it!

  8. I might print this and hand a copy out to each of my granddaughters. Excellent list.

  9. This is an important life skill. I always taught a few lessons on this each year in high school health.


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